Aug 19, 2009 ' 7:13 PM Y
It takes two hands to clap...Always~
Patience, understanding and love is the common basic of relationships. Be it lovers' relationship, family relationships, friendships or just your simple everyday meet and greet relationship with your neighbours, all these relationships are based on Patience, Understanding and Love.
I've heard about the qurrels and disagreements, but I never thought it would be so serious! It had never crossed my mind before that someone would have such a bad relationship with the ones you call family.
To me, my family members are sometimes irritating, and they do get on my nerves and bad side once in a while, but everytime we argue or qurrel with each other, our relationship with each other becomes better. We understand why each of us reacts this way and we learn how to accommodate with each other. This is based on the understanding we have for each other, that we learn to take a step back to see the full view, and understand what each of us is really trying to say.
Taking a step back also requires patience, which most sometimes is really hard to achieve. Everytime each fight or argument gets too heated up, we forget the patience that is needed to solve the problem, and end up hurting each other when we did it only in a moment of anger. Be patient, take a deep breathe before you let some awful comments or remarks you didn't mean to say leave your lips. Be patience and take a deep breathe before you let that anger clouded mind make any stupid decisions that you didn't actually mean to do in the first place. Soften your tone when you speak, or try to explain. Shouting only makes things worst. Yes, the other person might not have the intention to listen to you in the first place, but don't shout to force them to listen, you are only giving them the excuse to blame you, push faults to you and allowing them to anger you more.
And the most basic thing in relationships is Love. Because you have the love for each other, therefore you become angry. Because you have the love for each other, you want what's best for them. And because you have the love for them, you will not ignore them like some mere stranger you see on the roads. So think about it, if you truly love them, why do you want to hurt them in the first place? Over some small matter that you can already solve easily yourself.
If you truly love and cherise the relationships you have with anyone at all, have the patience, understanding and love to take a step back, breathe, soften your tone and think clearly before you act or say anything. After all, you do feel the hurt and anger because you love them. And although it takes two hands to clap, someone must always be the first one to bow down first. And if being the one to step down first, can stop things from becoming worst, why not you be the one to apologise first? At least one person in the fight has to be the clear headed one, and one person to be the first to step down.
